A Theory of Change & Healthy Relationship Behavior

Listen Empathically
-Humans have a deep yearning to be heard, understood and accepted. Loneliness is devastating to the human spirit and psyche.
Congruence of Self & Genuineness
-"I trust it is clear that when I can permit realness in myself or sense it or permit it in another, I am very satisfied. When I cannot permit it in myself or fail to  permit it in another, I am very distressed." (Carl Rogers)
Acceptance for Self and Others
-Valuing another is healing. Acceptance of self and others provides safety, security, trust and healthy attachment or connectedness.
Present Awareness
-Can you fully be present with yourself and another. When you drift attention can you bring yourself back to present focus.  The energy you dedicate to staying present with an individual translates into that relationships emotional connection and ledger.
-As a clinician, the external world dissipates from my consciousness and I delve into the reality of my client while staying connected to self and its reality. We are like children and undivided attention is our emotional language.
Reflect Upon Process
-The non-verbal communication, energy and emotional that is transacted between individuals often needs a voice.  Giving your own process a voice as well as what you perceive is occurring in an interpersonal interaction facilitates healthier process.
-Sometimes the nature of content is irrelevant to the other layers of our communications.
Allow for Agency
-To permit another their autonomy and agency establishes trust and respect as well as allows for another to grow within your influence but not superimposed upon in such a manner that stifles growth.
Transparency
-I feel a sense of satisfaction when I can dare to communicate the realness in me to  another." (Carl Rogers)
Vulnerability
-Vulnerability begets vulnerability.  Allowing another to witness your humanity allows for connection and permission to be authentic as well.
Validation
-People need to be built up and acknowledge for what they are doing well.
Challenge
-People need to be challenged to see reality as it was, is and can be.
Lastly, in my latest theory of change I believe that belief is essential.
Belief
-"That the individual has within him/her vast resources for self-understanding, for altering self-concept, attitudes, and self directed behavior... (Carl Rogers)
For Psychotherapist:
-"that these resources can be tapped if only a definable climate of facilitative psychological attitudes can be provided. (Carl Rogers)
I aspire to continue to have a profound humanistic characteristic to self and my clinical practice.  Carl Rogers humanistic theory has allowed me to reconstruct a more simplistic theory of change in which to ground myself with during my interpersonal interactions.
Therapy often models what can be successfully practiced in other relationships to enhance relationship satisfaction and personal fulfillment and self-actualization.